Hate bad news. Or, more precisely, I hate giving bad news. No big shocker there. I haven’t met anyone who likes to dole out less-than-favorable news. While nobody likes to dole out the bad news, seemingly fewer of us (!) know how to do it well. Reminds me of the baseball movie Moneyball when Jonah Hill’s character, Peter Brand, is charged with cutting a player. Essentially, Brand is tasked with delivering the definition of bad news. Why was Brand so anxious? Why are any of us anxious about it? Two main reasons. First, I think it’s because we feel bad for the other person who is getting the news. And, we don’t want to be seen as a baddie. Those are the overt reasons. The tertiary reason is a bit more subtle. We don’t know how the other person is going to react, and that uncertainty is scary. They might take it well. They might call us names. They might be relieved. Hard to say, and even harder to prepare for. And because we can’t prepare we are reticent. Alas, future leaders who can stare into the void and provide the bad news with care, empathy, and certainty, in the end, is doing the receiver a service. Let’s make a deal to get past our own discomfort in service of those we have the privilege of leading.
With your teams, don’t get out of the way, do this instead
"Get out of the way!" I often hear some version of this sentiment when talking about building a culture to incentivize high performance teams. "You have to find the right people, equip them, and then get out of the way." People who talk about getting out of the way...