Rarely is any solution strictly binary. Meaning, rarely is any solution only answer A or answer B. For whatever reason, especially when we are stressed, we tend to see only two alternatives. “I can stay and tolerate my intolerable manager, or I can quit.” Binary solutions, though, are an illusion. When I catch myself thinking binary, I know it’s time to pump the brakes and seek deeper reflection. In the example above the answer might be to move departments, work fewer hours, voice concerns, or even to combine potential solutions. The answer might require me to seek input from others to see hidden possibilities. The point is this: Binary thinking is fine if your question is Indian food out or Uber Eats delivered. When the problems get more tricky, the best solution will need reflection, space, and time to bubble up to the surface. Consequently, this means you have to be patient in spite of whatever pressure you are feeling in the moment.
First day of the rest of your life or all downhill from here
"Every day is better than the next." I missed it the first time I heard this line in the movie, "There's Something About Mary." This time, I got it. After laughing I realized something. I have spent years of my life on the wrong side of the equation. "Every day is...