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Future leaders, trade furiosity for curiosity

Instead of being furious, be curious. I heard somebody say that the other day. The sentiment rang true for me. Furious is the easy reaction when somebody misses the deadline, misses the point, misses the interpretation. Many of us too easily default to furious – a byproduct of nature or nurture and time. Getting mad is easy. Getting mad can be fun (in a way). Getting mad can help us feel like we are getting things back under control. But, it won’t actually do anything to move things toward resolution, and it will harm your relationships. The long-term scale tips toward “not worth it” when it comes to expressing anger. Being angry? Fine. Expressing your anger. Not fine. Not motivating. Not helpful. Instead, of making the blunder, wonder. Wonder why. Be curious. Everything happens for a reason. I promise. And, not in the mystical sense, but in a real sense. So, what happened? When you know then you can actually do some good by helping to correct the core of the problem. Do that enough times and things really start changing. Here’s the new response the next time you feel like sliding into the comfy slippers of anger: “Oh, that’s interesting. I wonder why?” Try it. See what happens. I double dog dare you.

by Jonathan

Jonathan Wilson is the CEO of Sandcastle, a leadership training and development consultancy. He frequently speaks and writes about building high performance teams. Jonathan regularly presents his latest findings and insights to business and government leaders at local, state, and national association events (both in-person and virtual). His first book, Future Leader: Rebooting Leadership to Win the Millennial and Tech Future is available now.

Published on: December 10, 2018

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